How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back (A Complete Guide)
82Author: Essy Redfield
Hi, welcome to my page!
I'm sorry to see you've ended up searching for "how to get your ex girlfriend back." Because it probably means you are going through a pretty miserable time right now. I'm truly sorry, and I know exactly how you feel (trust me).
Keep with me though because over the next few minutes I'll outline a plan to help you win her back.
If
you're anything like a lot of guys who contact me, you're probably
didn't even realize you could feel pain on this scale. It can really
take you by surprise and knock you off-guard.
Feeling the way you do right now is NOT unmanly.
- You might want to cry.
- You might feel like hitting things.
- You feel completely torn up inside.
These emotions are all completely natural, trust me, and the manliest thing you can do right now is to accept the pain but take action on it. So don't beat yourself up about feeling these things.
BUT... now isn't the time to feel sorry for yourself.
PLAN PLAN PLAN To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Before we even talk about how to get your ex girlfriend back, you need to make the commitment in your head that this is absolutely what you want. No half-measures.
And you must decide on a solid plan right now. No half-arsed attempt with a text or a lame phone call. You need a plan and you gotta stick to it.
A plan is SO SO important because it stops you from making instintive rookie mistakes that ruin your chances of making up with her.
- Mistakes like calling her up every day despite the fact she doesn't really want to talk to you.
- Mistakes like begging for her forgiveness and promising you will change for her.
When you make them (and yes they are tempting), you make it increasingly likely that she's going to start pitying you. And a girl NEVER gets back with a guy out of pity.
Let me repeat that - "a girl never falls for a guy out of pity".
It astonishes me how many guys try to do it this way though. Please don't be one of them.
Instead, you want to re-establish your allure by being strong, dominant and knowing what you want. All girls secretly crave these characteristics in their guy. Now's not the time to act like a wuss.
(you need to do this even if the breakup was your fault).
So how do you act strong and confident when all you feel inside is hurt and pain?
Rule #1: She's Not That Over You
Even if you think your situation is hopeless right now, there are tonnes of couples that have been in the same situation and have ended up getting back together. It happens a lot more often than you think.
In fact there are couples who you'd have said would never in a million years thought have gotten back together after horrible breakups. Even people who really be together still get a second (or third, or fourth) chance.
Why? Well it's just a matter of biology and psychology.
- BIOLOGY:
It's the chemistry between the two of you. If it "felt right" it
probably was right, as far as mother nature is concerned.The two of you
share a strong connection, that's why it feels so horrible being apart from her right now. Your body is hardwired to miss her. And hers is hardwired to miss YOU!
- PSYCHOLOGY: This one is more complicated, and this is where you can put your magic to work.. Psychology is actually pretty simple if you know what you are doing. The only problem is, people act in the wrong way to get their results, and mess up their chances in the process. However, if you KNOW what you are doing, you can play your ex's feelings like an instrument.
You still have that biological connection to her. RIGHT NOW she is feeling lonely, vulnerable and likely confused (no, that doesn't mean you should call her!). It is hardwired into her brain, she has no choice but to feel this.
The problem you are facing right now is psychological, which means you can overcome it with the right strategy.
How To Use Reverse Psychology To Win Her Back
I am convinced that in most cases, if you want it hard enough, you can get your ex boyfriend back! You just have to be strong and smart about it!
The key principle in how to get your ex girlfriend back is in reverse psychology.
Here are three quick examples:
#1 Don't Contact Her
For a period of at least 3-4 weeks.
You need to be very strict about this, even when it is so tempting to pick up the phone. If she has broken up with you she will regard your phone calls and texts as 'stalking' or 'harrassing'.
Instead, promise yourself that you won't contact her.
You might think: "Essy, isn't she going to forget about me and move on if I don't contact her".
She's going to think: "Why hasn't he got in touch with me lately? Does that mean he's over me? Has he found someone else? Have I made a big mistake?!"
Can you see the reverse psychology at work here?
#2 Accept the break up
Accept
the break up and tell her that you're ok with it. That you both need
space right now, and that it's probably for the best.
You might think: "If I let go of her now she's never going to come back."
She's going to think: "Wow, I didn't expect that. He's being mature about this. Why wasn't he like this before we broke up?" And then she'll begin to question herself... "Do I not mean that much to him? Why does he think it's for the best? Have I made a mistake?"
Can you see the shift in her mindset that's happening here? It's an incredibly powerful technique. You let her come to her own conclusions.
#3 Don't go running back to her if she calls
Going back to rule #1, if you don't get back in contact with her, she's more likely to get back in contact with you.
At this point, I highly recommend holding your ground. If she calls, tell her "You've caught me at a really busy time, it's great to hear from you but I can't talk for more than a couple of minutes."
If she says she wants to see you, tell her "I need some space from you right now. Maybe if you get in touch in a couple of weeks we can talk."
So yes you have to wait an extra couple of weeks, but do you see how powerful this technique is? She's got two weeks to think about that conversation you're going to have together. And you were strong. You didn't go running back to her.
At this point she is the one who is more likely to ask YOU back, whatever the reason for the breakup was.
A Quick Case Study
I'd like to take you through an email the other day that I got from a guy called Josh.
Here's what Josh wrote:
"I used the 'no contact' strategy and guess what, a little after two weeks my ex called me. I hope I handled it well but I don't know.
We had a nice light conversation for about 45 minutes. She basically asked me how things were going, and said just called to see how I was. How do I interpret this? I'm now going to wait another week to call her and see if she wants to meet.
Is this the right strategy? Thanks, Josh."
This is a common situation and a common mistake. What happens is you start making some headway - your ex starts to call you etc - because you'll pulling now instead of pushing.
And you get too excited. I have a name for it: "premature reconciliation". Josh stayed on the phone with his ex wayyy too long. He should have cut the conversation short.
The same goes for texts. Once she starts texting it's really easy to fall into the trap of texting her all the time.
DON'T TEXT.
Particularly in that phase when you are trying to attract her back. Agree with the breakup, tell her you want to take some time, and make her wait.
Summary - I hope that gives you some insight into the early stages of how to get your ex girlfriend back. I've written a Part II which goes into more detail about some methods of attracting your ex girlfriend back into your life.
Click Here For Part II
Part II Of This Guide
Based on the popularity of this Guide, I've just decided to set up a forum to better help guys who are struggling with their breakup.
Click in the link in the box to the right to find out more about this letter you should send.
Also, I've put together a write-up of a bunch of step-by-step methods you can follow to help win her back.
It's for guys who want to take that next step and do everything they can to try and win her back.
So if you are wondering "what do I do next?", you might want to check out the page I created for you. I talk about various 'step by step' methods to help win her back, so if you think you need a step-by-step system to help win her back, this is where you will find it for sure.
Thank you for reading my (very long) article. Whatever your situation is, and whatever you plan to do, I wish you all the luck in the world getting your ex girlfriend back! And remember, be strong!
Essy
p.s. I've also recently started emailing out PDF copies of this article so when you head over to my site just let me know if you want a copy.
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I agree that these tactics are very helpful, but would it still apply if I see her everyday?
would these still work if you have already had a chance and blown it its been months and months since we have spoke and she has a new fella but i desperatly need this girl in my life she is everything hope you can help as noone else can, thanks.
Sorry to say... this does not work. An ex did this to me and I have already found a new man who calls whenever he has a free chance and makes sure I am well and happy.
Not calling to me equals NOT caring.
To Di
Your ex is hurt, he gave you all and specially the care and attention that every women needs that you missed and did not give time to look deeply. He's probably is sick to his stomach thinking about you and your new guy. Specially if he believes you were the one. I'm sure he realized he's mistakes and understands but he needs space. He's probably on he's way to his new love and give everything that you threw away if this prolongs. Your guy is the paranoid one now. Because deep inside you know your ex has given more to you than anyone has. Your ex is not contacting you because he cares so much for you that he may want you to be happy. I've been in this situation before and now living in regret. Guys like your ex don't come around too often. -Kris
To Di
Your ex is hurt, he gave you all and specially the care and attention that every women needs that you missed and did not give time to look deeply. He's probably is sick to his stomach thinking about you and your new guy. Specially if he believes you were the one. I'm sure he realized he's mistakes and understands but he needs space. He's probably on he's way to his new love and give everything that you threw away if this prolongs. Your guy is the paranoid one now. Because deep inside you know your ex has given more to you than anyone has. Your ex is not contacting you because he cares so much for you that he may want you to be happy. I've been in this situation before and now living in regret. Guys like your ex don't come around too often. -Kris
I broke up with my ex a month ago. I know he's trying this no contact rule on me and its hard to admit that i dont miss him. I met someone new as well but I also fear that he's feeling scared and have been checking up on me when he gets a chance to see if I'm still around. I continue to tell him I'm fine and all but It's getting rather annoying and makes me think about my ex more. How do I tell him to back off without making him more scared than I know he does?
This piece is wonderful. Its quite the bit.
What if my Ex has other boyfriends that are using the "no contact" strategy on her?
thanks for the advice my ex gf was completely down with me i did the same way as you said and finaly every thing come back to normal its realy worked for my situation which was the hardest i think.i was thinking about 5% to get her back but it worked 100% thanks again.
hey thank you very much it help a lot my gf ask for a space and i was so confused but now i know what i have to do
cheers
I do not agree with your methods. I believe this will push your ex further away. Woman are taught not to chase men. The advice your giving will only make woman think you don't care and someone else will come along and take her. If you love her show her and tell her how much she means to you before its too late.
I think if its a serious break, then its meant to be. Move on, but more importantly, be far more successful than she will ever be. Don't go out of your way to ruin her life, but don't do her any favors either.
my boy friend and i had this huge fight we have had alot of big fightes we took things slow eventually got back together.we have 3 kids now, we had another fight and this time i feel like im dying because it dosent seeem like he wants usto get back together he avoids me and the kids. He stay at his friends house now and they foward all our calls he hasent spoken to us in a week he left his tuck at house then to comes 3 am in the morning and come sneaks it just so he dosent have to see us im so hurt what do i do im still in love with him!?!?
This was an entertaining read, and I assumed it was intended as humor. However, looking at the comments, it seems people are taking it seriously. If it was indeed meant to be taken seriously my reply would be that it has a small chance of working if two people have a healthy relationship. The method described here is like emotionally starving someone and they'll come running to you for any small snippets you fling their way between periods of weeks. This would work if this person was emotionally dependent on you from the beginning. Anyone with a healthy respect for themselves wouldn't be in that state. You will notice that a great number of unhealthy relationships are built on one or both of the partners being overly emotionally dependent on the other. I suggest that those seeking a relationship to satisfy their emotional dependence seek council from a therapist instead. You'll do better in all aspects of your life in the long run.
my girlfriend broke up with me and instead of doing this i tried talking to her and then she started trusting me again so we hungout but she didnt want me seeing her family just yet so we went to the park and had a good day, i did my best to act normal but at the same time show her that i care for her, it took a while but finally about a month later on the 4th of july she asked me out and of course i said yes so i took her out to watch some fireworks and now we have been going out ever sense so far but i never want to go back to that horible feeling, the feeling when you feel like all you want to do is run away and everyone to just leave you alone but at the same time want to do nothing but be with her, the feeling that all you want is the one you cant have or doesnt want you, she is my world, she is my light, i love her with all my heart and just want the best for her i love her and thats my story ... i guess im just trying to say dont give up, stay strong, give her some space but not so much that she goes away, try to talk to her a little bit but not to much give her time to think about it if thats what she really wants but then let her think about it and know your still there show her you care but dont beg for her, "if your going through hell, keep going" -Winston Churchill, its the worst feeling in the world when you loose the one you love but keep going just take it day by day, give her space but not to much, goodluck with everything.
good job..........
ok my girlfriend left me for another guy six months ago but we have a kid together and i see her still often, but it seems that they have a lot of issues shes often getting into situations where she has to tell him to leave her alone. I am in the process of getting myself together due to rehab issues. i think she understands and her love was so great for me even though i was awful to her at times i feel like she still loves me she is just confused at the moment. i have a hard time being patient and kind to her due to hurt feelings, but i live with her mom and we have a little girl together i just tried to lay with her on the couch and she woke up saying what r u doing? i want to be near her and make things work what should i do?
hope to b success let me start it
what if I already made those mistakes and she's ignorin me. is there still a chance for me
How am i going to get back to my ex? its been 6 months since she broke up on me, with no really good reason, after 5 months i heard she has a new boyfriend 10yrs older than her and quite rich,, what should i do to win her back is there still chance?? or im hopeless?? because every time i tried to contact her she not responding totally communication black out to me,, what do i need to do to win her back any help please???
Im starting today lets see how it goes!!
good but still can't figure it out don't Know what to do
i had no chance but she has a new guy idk what i can do she told me i jumped over the line when i never been nothing but a good person to her
Hey I am a women, and this method does not work. You suggest the same rules to the women to; to not contact their men. Then if she must not contact, and you are "teaching" him to not contact either, then soon or later love will end, thinking that they ex-partners do not care anymore.
Dear fellas, I believe this will push your ex further away. Woman are taught not to chase men, and I am one of them. If you love her show her and tell her how much she means to you before its too late.
If she is the one for you she will appreciate your "showing your love to her" and will love you more than before.
Do not let her more than 2-3 weeks with no contact. Trust me I have been there.
Hey my girlfriend broke up with me because she has emoitionaly atatchments issues ,and i almsot tried everytrick in the book , She works att my work so its hard to avoid her , And yeah its been 9 weeks and yeah I trid talking i tried to get her to hangout i even left here alone for a week or so and then i tried talking to her again but she attack em really fast the things i say and she gets annoyed , i know she act like a bitch to try protects herself and she always says she likes me but doesnt want to, I dk what to do anymore i litrally almsot tried everything . She says she deosnt care anymore but im not sure what to believe ,she is really undisicive and really stubborn its hard to get something true to her , she is half thai and speaks thai , i thought about righting a apoligie letter/goodbye or soemthing ,idk some sort of letter but the thing i would do is learn to write it in thai while i dont know one word ,You think this is a good idea ? shes going on holidays for 2-3weeks i thought maybe after she comes back id give it to her or should i do it before so she has time to rethink stuff in thailand . (this girl need reasons ,She is scared of getting hurt And has trouble describing herfeelings , I know her weaknesses and strenght but she says i assume to much , I have tried allot and this girl need 1 reall go reason to be in a relationship becasue she doesnt see the point of it ) I doubt that anyone can help me with this but i thought i migth try ,because she still means allot to me , and i dont know what to do ,
or should i jsut leave her be and try to take her power away i got a feeling writing her a letter wuld jsut give her power and soemthing to keep that power feelings to hold on too , I wrote her a letter before and the letter is what mad eher ask em out well we where bestfriends for 9 months and to be honest now where nothing
I would say to the guy with a Thai exgirlfriend. Go back to grammer school and get an education.
my ex gf has a fear of commitment that makes her behave so strangely. when I first knew her she was so caring but suddenly things got bad and we broke up. she called and we got back to each other then I couldn't bear her strange behavior so I left her then I called her and got her back!! this time when she got into the indifferent mood and was never answering me for days! I asked her a very stupid and terrible question if she had someone else in her life! I made her angry that she sent me a message saying it's over, I replied that I agreed with her yet I wanted us to talk to end it in a more proper way for us, well she didn't reply so I sent her another message which was so emotional and I said explicitly that I loved her and still do yet it was also implied that I am accepting reality.....I am going into the no contact thing now but I wonder if those messages were too wrong or reduce my chances and how long should I wait sometimes I think of her message as an angry reaction and is not really a well thought decision which makes me want to call her pretty sooner that people say it's right.....I love her so much and don't be fooled with the shallow description to our story because I am almost sleeping and never posted anything before or talked abt my feelings in public.
She is not talking to me. This has been going on since May 2011.
well, call her Joe! call her now!
Hi, Essy! GREAT, WONDERFUL hub. Very thorough, precision style of writing. Creative research. There was not a syllable or thought that I didn't love. Thanks for such a sensible and yet timely topic. Voted up and all across.
Not all women are like this, I suppose. This backfired in my face, completely. It was as if the exact opposite of everything here would've worked.
I thank you for your advice, but I believe jumping in front of a train will be much easier now.
What if when the reason of your breakup was a happiness with another guy? do you think she will still miss you? we've been almost 3years with my girlfriend but i wonder if she will miss me.
Me and my girlfriend were together for almost 2 years n then she dumped me giving reasons that she gets frustrated hearing my voice and seeing me Although she admits i havent done anything wrong and she still wanted to be friends ,there was a guy was always searching for opportunities and used to stalk her, now he has tried being her friend and is being nice to her and is manipulating her mind , so I used this no contact strategy and it worked she called me after 10 days
i played it casual and was just reciprocating her calls and dint show any interest , though she started telling me out of nowhere that she wants to be friends and nothing else ... what reply should i give to her?? is it good that she called me herself just to check what i m doing???
I would honestly tell you all to just give things time. Give the person space, respect what they want, but don't NOT contact them. You have to keep them in your life and let them know you care, but think of it this way too... DO NOT do things to make her run faster. She's clearly already running from you if you just broke up, but if you chase her she will run faster. Make her look back so that she sees you standing there. She'll slow down and wonder why you're not running after her, and that's when you take a few steps towards her, because then she sees you're not chasing her and she has no reason to run, but you're still in pursuit. You're just letting her run out ahead a little bit to test the waters, and you're going to catch up to her most likely.
Break ups suck, mine is 8 days old at this point, and we had the best connection of anyone I've ever been with. We are still living together, until she moves out at the end of the month. We have a lot of fun together being with each other and still talk normally.
She tells me she cries but not around me, at night time when she goes to sleep because breaking up sucks in general, and that she doesn't love me like she used to or should and a lot of other things like that... yet she still acts like it in many many ways.
The bottom line is, a break up is not the end of the world, and it certainly doesn't have to be the end of your connection with that person. Just take it one day at a time, be as supportive as possible, and if you really did have a good thing then you eventually make it work. Maybe not today, or tomorrow, or this year even ... but if it's meant to be it will be... Trust me, it's hard for me to take my own advice but really it is what you HAVE to do. You have no option but to give space and support them and work on yourself, and be the person that they fell in love with. Do some soul searching.
I agree with others, the no-contact method only works for immature and weak women. Most women these days are strong and independent - they want to know that you're thinking about them and want them. A little bit of no-contact will definitely work, but don't go with that for too long... or she'll move on thinking that you did too.
Women are hard wired to find a partner who is capable of taking care of them. It comes down to a primal instinct. If you're acting like a child and freaking out about everything on her, you're not the strong supportive man she needs.
hi my name is Tony i be with my ex for 2 and a half year she have a son but it is not mine but i been in the boy life since he was one now he just trun 3 i need help getten her back i mean thats my fam i have lied so many time to her i have yelled at her made her cry been doing some crazy things but i no deep in my heart that i do love her i dont no what to do to get her back is there anybody out there in this world that can help me out my email is rocfella87@yahoo.com hope there sombody out there that can i mean we all do need help thanks
Hi guys, I will tell you a funny story, I met this girl 2 years ago, we quickly became good friends, she had a 2 years relationship and she suffered alot, I helped through it, to get over her ex, and we became best friends, 1 year later we decided to build a relationship between us. Im the kind of guy who gives everything and expect nothing in return, I guess that was the problem...well many things happened, fights, blabla we broke up, she said that her life was a mess and she decided to cut me out of it. I was devastated. We had no contact for over 2 weeks, then i decided to call her, in roder to tell her all the things i didnt when we broke up. We decided to try to save our friendship but I knew that deep inside i still loved this woman. After two weeks she invited me to this birthday party of her nephew, we hanged out we had fun as "friends" anyway, after the party she invited to watch LOST at her place i accepted, we had sex, i told her that I still loved her, that I missed her, she told me that she missed me but she didnt want a relationship. I let her know that I would fight for her cause she is worth the try. Anyway, we had sex again 3 days after that. I sent her flowers, I played a song for her, but neither my good treatment nor my good intentions worked so far. She still wanted me to be her friend (with benefits?).
Now im using the "dont call her" rule step by step, it's been almost a week since I dont know anything about, nor she does. I miss her alot and I really hope she calls me, but i want to stick to then plan, if she calls me I try to keep the conversation short.
So what do you think?
ty for reading
Gonzalo S.
Give a girl a break or brake a girl who gives !!! That's my opinion ... I am in the same situation we love eachother to much that we can't be together ... Matter of religion how about that any advice ... Her birthday coming up soon the 1st and don't know what to do ... She said that I was the one for her ... Even at the first day ... Plz help ididnt contact her for 1 week so far and thinking of giving her more space ... I love this girl do much and she knows this already ... As she does aswell ...we have been together for 2 years and 3 month ... And we lived together since day one !!! How about that ???? Our story is unique as we got separated because of religion matter and how to raise the kids if we have any !!! Please let me know what to do !!! Thanks and believe in love as its the only true thing in life ...!!!
nothing is rigid in life. what works for one may not do for another.That is not to discredit the pull-back strategy that Essy spoke of. In fact i believe it works more times than pestering an ex does.An ex is more likely to get back when she's missed a part of you long enough to submerge her ego.So,if you want your ex back, you've got to pay the prize of a break up.WAITING!! For how long you should wait, i think depends on why you want to get back.
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I've done this same thing several times and it's worked each time, however, I think a lot depends on what kind of man you are. If you've projected the need to be clingy and possessive during the relationship these methods probably won't work after the breakup. However, if you portray yourself as confidence and strong while you're together she'll eventually contact you. Reason is that she'll think that you have the potential to move on quickly and this scares her. I went without contact for five months with an ex-girlfriend and when I finally decided to talk to her she told me she was worried crazy during that period and was calling to see me again, and this was after she left me.
Holla, ive found this a fascinating read and can automatically see, that this is how most women would respond to these actions described.... I think the negotive comments some people have put are so unforgivenly stupid!! How can your read be humourous??? Is this someone jelous trying to be interlectual i dont know but it is obvious, that depending on the circumstances, this could, and proberly would work well.
Im discusted that anyone would call this a joke!!! Its genius!!!
I think the no contact thing sort of already happened a ling time ago, but in the situation I'm in my ex has been dating another guy for 6 months. Id do anything to get her back, I don't know how I can possibly break the chemistry (if it's real) between her and her bf. I dated her for 5 months and she's been dating him for 6! The only advantage I have is a 6 year friendship. But what do I do?
she keeps on saying i don,t trust you any more
Hey guys girl.
I read the article. Agree and disagree with the info. I want to let you guys know that this works in my relationship but dosent work for all. BUT, to be honest the best thing you could do is 1) tell her you understand and agree with the brake up. 2) accept the brake up 3) give yourself time and do the things you have put off in your life 4) ENJOY LIFE, because we only live once and if you have accepted this you will also know that you can fall for someone else. 5) when it has been time send a letter, letters are powerful because you never send them... RIGHT? In the letter write that you have had time apart, and it's been greate for yourself. Hoping it's been great for you too. But put in there that you want her to know about your true feelings and that you are going to move on. Ask that during this time we don't speak or contact unnessarely, as this will delay the time to get over you. 6) don't
Contact your ex only to say when the time is right that you agree with the brake up from step 1. Finally 7) understand that it was better to have loved that to have not loved at all. Isn't love such a powerfully feeling? Thankyour self for the feeling of love an hate and anger as you would hate to not have them. When you thank your feelings you will start to relax. Anyway typing on mobile. Hope you guys and girls are good and if your in a bad state. Write a note to your lover but keep it to yourself. Or talk to a friend.
Ladies & Gentlemen,
My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago, we have been no contact since except when she texted me asking what I am going to do with the concert tickets I got for her birthday when we were still dating. I told her they were her birthday gift and I will mail them to her. I am planning on mailing all the tickets ( some of her family members too) including mine but not sure what to say if she asks why I sent her mine too. How to go about inviting myself or if she even wants me to go. I want her back but not sure how to approach this matter since she told me before she doesn't see a future for us. The sad thing is...while I am grieving our break up, she is grieving her ex husband her got re-married and expecting a baby, so she is in an emotional turmoil and I want to give her as much time as possible. Any thoughts or suggestions - thank you!
I'll get stra?ght to the po?nt I really want to follow th?s adv?se my s?tuat?on ?s just sl?ghtly d?fferent. We have a k?d together so what now I can't not talk to het for 3- 4 weeks?
it helps me alot dud
Thnx for ur advice. It will hlp full form.
i had problem with my girlfriend, now how do i get her back?
Guys , watch out if you try this one . Its not as sure fire as stated . I started 3 months ago nc with hopes of hearing from her every day . As I said its 3 months later , sometimes its just over . Sorry guys . I even hate typing that . I still miss her something awful . But someday I will not . Thats what nc is for . Not to win her back , but to heal you , and it can be a slow #$%#ing process .... but it works . Just wanted to say that . Cheers
this is even harder to do when she don't speak to you because she finds out what happened in your past
me and my ex girlfriend was going out for six and a half years and two weeks ago she dumped me, we was on a brake for three weeks and i new she was going to dump me, i was looking on how to get her back before we even broke up,looking on google looking at youtube videos on how to get her back, i even bought 2 get your ex back products online,they all pretty much say the same thing, no contact between 3-5 weeks, send the handwriten second chance letter where you've gotta say you agree with the brake up something greats happened to you but you'll tell them some over time and we both need some space, but i had to email this due to having a broken index finger,i'm still following these systems which are very much the same, but it is hard not talking to her, she did messaged a few days after the brake up asking how did my surgey go (i have a broken leg as well as a broken finger) but i didn't reply then she messaged me a few days ago to say happy birthday so i sent her a email the next day saying what the seconed chance leeter said to say, to which she replyed you have nothing to be sorry about i'm glad you you have good news really happy your looking after your self, i understand you still need space and i'm relly sorry about everything,i don't no if the no contact will work but during the brake i kept saying i loved her and i will change and that did'nt work, she said she see's me as a friend, and i get the impression she does't feel a thing for me any more,which means she has no confidence in me and no longer see's a future with me,
i'm looking for advice form anyone out who think's they can help or if any one want's advice from me please just ask
thanks steven
me and my ex girlfriend was going out for six and a half years and two weeks ago she dumped me, we was on a brake for three weeks and i new she was going to dump me, i was looking on how to get her back before we even broke up,looking on google looking at youtube videos on how to get her back, i even bought 2 get your ex back products online,they all pretty much say the same thing, no contact between 3-5 weeks, send the handwriten second chance letter where you've gotta say you agree with the brake up something greats happened to you but you'll tell them some over time and we both need some space, but i had to email this due to having a broken index finger,i'm still following these systems which are very much the same, but it is hard not talking to her, she did messaged a few days after the brake up asking how did my surgey go (i have a broken leg as well as a broken finger) but i didn't reply then she messaged me a few days ago to say happy birthday so i sent her a email the next day saying what the seconed chance leeter said to say, to which she replyed you have nothing to be sorry about i'm glad you you have good news really happy your looking after your self, i understand you still need space and i'm relly sorry about everything,i don't no if the no contact will work but during the brake i kept saying i loved her and i will change and that did'nt work, she said she see's me as a friend, and i get the impression she does't feel a thing for me any more,which means she has no confidence in me and no longer see's a future with me,
i'm looking for advice form anyone out who think's they can help or if any one want's advice from me please just ask
thanks steven
I think what others fail to see is that this article gives us hope in the darkest times of our despair; at a time when we are so hurt, we cling to anything just to escape the pain even for a bit.
So what if it doesn't work for all people? Matters of the heart really are unpredictable. At least we are given a last fighting chance before the ship totally sinks. And if people really consider their lost loves to be the most important thing in their life, I think giving up should be the last thing in their minds.
If this doesn't work for some people, at least it afforded them some time to accept this unfortunate reality gradually or, at the least, give them time away from that dark place even for just a while.
I thank the author for the insights. You've shown me some light at the end of this tunnel.
I need some help... My girlfriend of two years four months broke up with me about a week ago... She still loves me just as I love her, but she has not been happy with herself lately, no matter what I told her about how amazing the is. We were deeply in love and I was going to propose on our 3 year anniversary in June... But now I don't know if we will get back together or not... She said there may be a chance but I don't know what will happen, and it tears me apart... I know we are meant to be... I know she loves me, but I'm scared that may change...
I just want her back, and will do anything to be with her again... She's my one true love...
What can I do?
Hey. Plz give me some tips. Now what shuld i do? My girl frnd break up with me, 2 wek ago. First 3 days i jst cried. After i read ur points. I told as you said. But she still text me. I dont give her rply. But i am not happy to heart her. After some days we will meet in college? Then how i should behave with her. Please help me sir. I also asked her what is the cause for brk up. She rplied simply. I dont knw.;-(
hey i and my gf broke up 3 days ago we have decided to be friends but whenever i try calling her she talks to me but i dont see the previous chemistry from her side...i really wanna get back with her i luv her...plz help me:(
I'm in a bad situation. My girlfriend left me and is now ENGAGED (not dating, but engaged) two weeks later. I think maybe this is a phase but if it isn't I don't want to lose her. I've had my good and bad times with her, but shes the one I care about more than anything and I want to spend the rest of my life with her. She's nothing but a great person and I failed her. I really want to show her I can be the man she wants me to be. The man I should've have already been.
This is horrible advice for immature/high school relationships. To use mind games to get someone back is not the right way to solve the core issues. The breakup will just happen again.
Every break up happens for different reasons. If a man loves a woman (not a boy loves a girl), he will handle the break up maturely and will call her to see how she's doing and to communicate.
Mind games backfire. Wiy the reverse psychology, the gf could start to think she made the right decision to leave...after if he really loved her, he wouldn't push her away.
Also, if a man uses mind games and gets her back; how long will it last before she leaves again? How mature mentally is this girl? As a matte of fact, how mature are the both of them? Not very.
Poor advice.
If you're broken up with, make sure you handle your emotions well in front of her. Always be honest with how you feel about her as an adult (that means no emotions fit). If she contacts you, keep communication open. Let her know while it breaks your heart that she's gone, you'll be okay and that you respect her decision. And if you both really love each other, you both need to wok on what led to the break up. If she no longer wants you, no mind games is going o keep her. Always talk with love and honesty and be respectful to yourself and her if she doesn't love you anymore...just let her go.
Thanks but i was the 1 who broke up with her and i regret it.
i dated her for pretty much slightly more than a year, but she broke up with me 1 week after our anni, she says the reason she broke up is cos of her university work and she doesnt have time for a relationship, and that the distance away from each other slightly drove her away from me , but she still says she loves me...and i love her too, i want her back soo badly...anyone got advice on how to get her back...and do you think i can win her over again?
Nice, but the big thing is, woudnt you let her go, fir her happiness not you self, I had the same problem I tried to go back out, but she's found some one new and she's happy, so woudnt u let her go to be happy, she will love you more then trying to get her back cuz she will know u doing somthing good for her she don't wana see u In pain she will always be a dearst friend to u cuz there is one little bit of love from her to you, thanks for reading
Hai, essy. Thanks. Thanks. Thanks. I follow your rule. And she come back. Waw it is unbeliveable. Nw she love me more than before. Thnx
I met my girlfriend at a party and didnt even know her and i went out with her for six days and when she broke up with me she said this is moving to quickly im not ready for a relationship yet and we live about an hour apart if i use this tatic will i win her back
my gf of 10 months just recently broke up with me, says she loves me ditto but now tells me she got back with her ex of seven years do i believe this and what can i do to win her back into my arms. I really love her..
Haha, I do this shit all the time to girls, it works I know that sounds horrible but relationships SUCK at 17 so I prefer to stay on the sexual side of things until I am mentally mature enough to actually commit lol, Don't say It won't work because usually it does, you make them come after you and it's all over on their part. Another thing, to whatever girls who disagree with this and say that the "no contact" rule doesn't work just means that you never loved the other person or no longer care so either way you don't need to kid yourself and you moved on in about a month, NO CARE EVER lol, don't kid yourselves if you truly love someone you will ALWAYS miss them even when you are mad at them. So to all you heartless women stop kidding yourself, some guys are onto your little games and tricks you think you can play on all of us.
me and my ex gf broke up just 2 days ago. We broke up about a month before that because i talked to my ex. She met someone else during our last last break up and the guy is really nice to her. After we got back i gave my 100% in the relationship but she didnt. As much as she tells me she loves me and misses me but she was still talking to that guy. We broke up 2 days ago because i deactivated facebook, she asked me why and i told her "i really dont want to see him posting on your wall". She felt bad and shitty, and told me that she needs to stop talking to him but its hard. I explained to her that "you know i understand what that feels like, i felt like that with my ex, and to let go of someone who was actually just being there for you. But understand that its for the better. It's better to damage a house rather then break down the whole thing". She got mad after because i mentioned about my ex even though i said it to give a perspective. We messaged all day yesterday and she came to a conclusion. She said "i love you, and i need to stop talking to william (that other guy) because i dont want to hurt you anymore. Its gonna take time, and for now i wont be talking to anyone one of u guys until im ready. I will follow my heart". So far we havent talked for a day, im not too sure whats going on but whatever.
What do you guys think?
Actualy i liked your guidelines but i love my gf she has broken up with me since 2 years but she never called md i still love her and i want to win her back
Just be yourself and respect her wishes even if it hurts you, This is what it means to really love someone its not about manipulation. If its meant to be it will happen.
Am working on it. I think it will work
my ex and i had been together for 2 years. i broke up with her and now 6 months later shes had a boyfriend for 5 months and im the type of guy that thinks sex is special to me and she might have it with her bf. i love her so damn much, shes the one. what do i say or do to not get her to have sex with him and to come back so i can show her my love? btw her bf is in college and im only 17
I met a girl at work and we hit it off rather quickly. About 3 weeks later we had sex and I started trying to get her to commit. She said I was being too pushy and so I backed off. A few days later, she flipped out when I didn't wait to say Hi to her on my way home from work. Now she wont respond to any of my texts and it's driving me crazy. I have to work with this girl but will still attempt the no contact rule.
Hi i just want some advice..
Me and my gf broke up 3days ago. I tried talking to her and told me to let it go.the next day she txted me wanted to be friend and friends with benifits..and she told me she wants to be friends with me cus she wants to stay contact with me and she told me tat theres a 100% tat she'll come bak to me but its gnna take time..my biggest fear is when i ask her wat if thr is some one come along..she told me that she will give that person a chance..
Idk wat to do and wat to believe but plsssss help me
Me and my x broke up 4 months ago she left me for another man and all seems to b going good there but I still miss her like crazy we hav 2 boys and this whole break up was over Facebook I hate it so much. We had a pre big fight to break up but there was no need for this ay we been together for 5 yrs I want her back so much but now there is this other dude in her head how do I get rid of him and make her mine again
Well , my gf asked for space and i accepted to brake up with her and give her space , i am not even looking at her when she is around and giving her the maximum of space we can have BUT now her birthday and Christmas are 6-8 days from now , and i already gave her 1 other week .. is that enough for the " no contact " rule ? because i am planning to contact her on her birthday with a nice letter and a nice gift and a flower .
can anyone help please ?
i was seeing a lovely woman for 5 months, we fell in love but before me she was seeing a married man for a year and said it was all over, anyway i found out she was still having sex with him since we had been together and i was heartbroken, i love her and shes confused over her feelings for me and that other guy, she has told me stuff and so has he and and i do not know what to beleive or if shes keeping me hanging on if the other guy says he's ot leaving his wife then im plan b, lots of lies, heartache and confusion i dont know what to do, any advice?
hi.. Me and my gf for a year broke up last 2 weeks..and now she told me that she is with somebody now and after that i decided to apply to her you method..after saying to her that i will move on and will not bother their relation anymore she told me that she is sad and ask me if ever that i will have a new gf and she comeback will i leave the girl for her..i answer her with maybe..am i correct with what i do?pls help me i want my ex back
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I have a werid situation here. There this girl in work and and I finally had the courage to ask her out and stuff. We both like each other but she says she doesn’t want a relationship. I know she’s been hurt in the past and is scared of letting someone into her life and but I said that I’m not that sort of person that’s gonna hurt her. So a month passes and we’re doing good. Talking to each other everyday, hanging about on our breaks at work. But when we had a work night out and a other night out for a friend we both had arguments nothing big just drunkenness. so she got annoyed. I know it’s silly and I should just move on but I can’t. She got annoyed at me last week and now we’ve not spoken for a few days. Should I use the same thing posted here? The hard thing is I will see her in work each week. I know I should move on but I’m hope this sort things helps either way? By help I mean either she see me a better man or I move on.
Thanks
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need help! my girlfriend dumped me 2 days before christmas, after going throught my phone and finding a conversation on facebook i had with another girl one night 6 months ago, in which i asked to see dirty pics and said i didnt love my girlfriend and was only with her cuz i didnt want to be on my own...
i tried to explain i only felt that way for a couple of days cuz we had had a bit of a tiff at the time. and that girl had breast cancer, and i was trying to cheer her up..which is true. but i did flirt alot.
i've tried and tried to get threw to her by txt and on the phone. then she said stop txting me or i'll change my number.
we were together for 3 years and never had any real problems. but now she coming out with lots of little things that sound like excusses to me. lots of excusses apart from the real one..facebook.
we always had fun times and we used to talk about marrige and kids.we even looked at engagement rings 2 days before she dumped me.
we are only emailing each other now, but its very tense, just small talk, and she never asks about my day or what i been doing. and still refuses to see me.
i know it is bad but she the best thing that happened to me and i love her to bits. if she came back i would delete facebook. it only kill relationships.
can anyone give me advise on how to get her back?
Me and my girlfiend just broke we been together for 7 years and we been living together for seven years we have two kids. She told me that I was her first love. we got into a huge fight and put me out the house. We been broken up for a month now She told me that she love and she that she miss me she told me that last week. She the love of my life she my heart I want to marry her someday. Should I use the no contact rule to even tho we have kids together.
Hey! I did pretty much the whole thing (she called after a few weeks to "see how I'd been"), but I goofed up when I tried to call her back like five days after she called me. She didn't answer, and I didn't leave a message or anything, but now I'm curious what I should do...
powerful kumar, Remember that little dirt bag that my daughter was dating? He was only 17, 15 piercings and 2 tattoos already, completely disrespectful, would sneak into our house at night and drink the beer in the fridge and treated her horribly. But first loves, we have all been there. She deserved better. I ordered the Split Them Up revenge spell and within 3days he was gone. She caught him cheating on her with her friend. Needless to say she hasn’t spoken to either of them since. That was almost a year ago. She has moved on to a nice kid (still has piercings) but treats her well and that is all I ever want for her is to be happy and taken care of.thanks be to you powerful kumar(powerfulkumarspell@yahoo.com)
Lail 14 months ago
Hey! Pretty nice! I enjoyed to read it :)
Keep it up!